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I must full disclose I get on a little bit of a soap box here but hear me out!

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I was reading a post from a colleague that other day that said, you know if she posted a picture like this one it would get more likes then a picture of let’s say my coffee mug photo. . . That’s exactly right so many people want to share what they want to share but the algorithm of instagram or social media doesn’t care what you want it cares what people like. . . Meaning if you as a human don’t “like” the coffee mug picture I posted it won’t be shared with more people. Whereas if you “like” my photo here, more people will when a chance to read my messages. . . So why as influencers or people with an online voice do we try to post such “likeable” pictures? When personally, I’d love to see people only share what they think will actually help. . . In theory if people do this then we can actually provide value to people and be ourselves rather than try to put up a “face” to bring across a point that will translate into help or value for someone ! . . You have heard me say it before my pictures are not picture perfect. They are real, they are me but the connect and value I provide you with is raw, organic and actually applicable! . . Do you want to help increase my voice so I can influence more people to live their best lives? Comment below what you want to see pictures of or your favorite pictures to share! . . Ps- none of the photos I share are photo shopped, this is me! #nofilter . #fitness #3degreefitness #firstresponders #firewife #personaltrainer #onlinepersonaltraining #moms #weightlossjourney #weightlosssupport #youcan #selfcare #beleiveinyourself #fitnessmotivation #nutrition #girlboss #communityovercompetition #entrepreneur #healthydiet #fitnesscoaching #fit #fitnessmotivation #fitlifestyle #fitnesscoach #onlinepersonaltraining #weightloss #pushyourlimits #onlinefitnesscoach #bosslady #embraceambition #creativesunite

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Let’s talk about likes…

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Can I be honest. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ As self assured as I might be, pictures like this are still hard to post. In fact this picture was taken over 10years and this is the first time I have been courageous enough to share it! .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am the obese one in this photo!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ While I have come a long way from that photo it does not mean it wasn't apart of my story or my pain. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I remember having to borrow this bathing suit from my friend and having the most confidence in it. I thought I looked like the rest of my friends or better. It is not until the world points out our flaws and we allow it to effect us that we feel hurt or pain. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Take a stand today and chose not to let peoples negativity effect you. Do not let the response of someones comments effect you. They do not get that power over your life! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Ready to get started? I am screening for new clients this week make sure to get on the waitlist it will fill up! .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ . #fitness #3degreefitness #firstresponders #firewife #personaltrainer #onlinepersonaltraining #moms #weightlossjourney #weightlosssupport #youcan #selfcare #beleiveinyourself #fitnessmotivation #nutrition #girlboss #communityovercompetition #entrepreneur #healthydiet #fitnesscoaching #fit #fitnessmotivation #fitlifestyle #fitnesscoach #onlinepersonaltraining #weightloss #pushyourlimits #onlinefitnesscoach #bosslady #embraceambition #creativesunite

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If you have been following me for a while now you know, I am not that fancy, I am not about posting half naked pictures to get viral status or 1000 likes. My messages matter to me and I firmly believe in being genuine to who you are and your tribe flow from that.

I was very happy to see that the picture above where I posted in my bathing suit being very much overweight that I received so much love, and in fact more “likes” that the one where I am half naked.

I am not trying to shame women that post pictures with there booty’s hanging out but I also think it cross a line of self respect. Respect for yourself, other women and your relationship with your spouse and Christ.

It is great that you worked hard for your body and your proud of that but you do not need to lay on the edge of a waterfall in the park or Jamaica in a thong to get respect from that or send a valued message.

The value in your messages comes from consistent content and showing up day after day for women or your clientele.

It’s great you want to look good naked, but save that for your spouse, and rock that family appropriate bathing suit. Theres a time a place for that thong and it is not social media ladies.

The point in this message is I got more likes off of my fat bathing suit picture than by half naked one … why? The level of respect that is considering with the image and words in my post. It never has anything to do with that you think it does. So bottom line be authentic to you and keep your cloths on!

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Online Personal Trainer, showing women how to eat cake, lose weight and keep it off!

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